Acquaintance for dating
“Often, at least one friend knows about the situation but chooses not to say anything because of a ‘don’t-tell’ mentality,” says Carol. “Many keep their dating secret by lying to their parents about where they go,” says 17-year-old Beth. “Dating without the intention of marriage is like advertising something you’re not selling,” says 20-year-old Evan. Proverbs says: “Expectation postponed is making the heart sick.” Do you really want to make someone you care about sick at heart?
Another caution: Dating secretly will rob you of the loving interest of your parents and other concerned adults.
(1 Timothy ) After all, how would you feel if the relationship had harmful consequences? To illustrate: Suppose a friend is diabetic and is secretly filling up on sweets.
What if you found out about it, but your friend begged you not to tell anyone?
Perhaps, as a young man named Thomas says, “they don’t want to be teased with questions like, ‘So when are you getting married?
Jessica explained that as one of Jehovah’s Witnesses, she wouldn’t be allowed to date someone who wasn’t of her faith. “He asked, ‘Why can’t we just date behind your parents’ backs?
’” IF SOMEONE were attracted to made such a suggestion, how would you respond?
Really, if you can’t be open about your dating, you should ask yourself Do you know in your heart that your parents would have valid reason to object?
“I Knew What I Had to Do” Jessica, mentioned at the outset, changed her mind about secretly dating Jeremy when she heard the experience of another Christian who was in a similar situation. Dating secretly betrays the trust of your parents and undermines the very foundation of your relationship with the one you’re dating. If I am dating a fellow Christian secretly, I will ․․․․․ If a friend of mine is dating secretly, I will ․․․․․ What I would like to ask my parent(s) about this subject is ․․․․․ WHAT DO YOU THINK?
Don’t worry about permanently ruining your friendship.