Dating advice from a single guy
Not everyone has symptoms, but this doesn't mean you can't pass the virus to others.
We don’t make a big deal about cold sores, so why is the same type of sore such a big deal once it hits below the belt?
I took immune-boosting supplements (even though research on supplements to prevent herpes is inconclusive) and made sure he was taking his herpes medication, which decreases chances of transmission as well as his frequency of outbreaks — and then we just kind of went about our sex lives without fretting too much. We decided to be mostly monogamous, agreeing that when we were in the same city, we would only see each other. Should I then disclose to my new partners that I have genital herpes?
After the relationship ended (for non-STI reasons), I wanted to get tested for HSV II, but my doctor said that because it takes so long to build up antibodies, results would be inconclusive. After a long discussion over the ethics of herpes, my doctor and I decided that it was unnecessary to tell future partners that I’d come into contact with it — because, after all, most sexual adults likely have, too.
It would be like telling everyone that I have the flu, but hadn’t shown any symptoms, so it was only a possibility.
Instead, I got out ye olde hand mirror every few days and checked out my genital area for any abnormalities or bumps.My newfound herpes education led me to make a choice: I was going to have sex with this guy.