Dating shows from the 90s
Ownership over, acknowledgement of, and the embracing of one’s own sexuality, as a female, still raises a few eyebrows.
There has been a slow turn away from the overwhelming status quo of “girls touching themselves, ew, why, it’s impure,” thanks to feminist porn and the delightful world of Tumblr providing a frank and judgment-free space for discussion.
However, now it’s not so much needing a unanimous yay or nay on that SO, as it is needing a thought-out, informed yay or nay from the one (or two) trusted friend who has the best judgement. Ross marvels at the ability of women to have multiple orgasms in just the fifth episode of the series, while Joey is utterly clueless at the notion of making sure Melanie, his fruit basket crafting girlfriend, is sexually satisfied.
Monica and Rachel have to walk Chandler through the steps of pleasing new girlfriend Kathy, teaching him that there is more than one erogenous zone (although in reality there are far more than the show’s identified seven).
Society as a whole has arguably taken a step back, with wide swaths of virgin vs. Glib statistics of higher percentage of unhappiness and dissatisfaction often accompany reports of the increase in free-for-all sexual activity. “If you wanna be my lover, you gotta get with my friends.” Friends form an inevitable hurdle that must be crossed in order to embark on a new relationship.
The girls also discover the importance of treating their own bodies and those of other “goddesses” bodies with the highest, most novel regard when they read the book Be Your Own Wind Keeper. Women are far more in touch with their emotions because men have the emotional range of a teaspoon. ) A ‘90s sitcom staple is the hilarious miscommunication between the sexes: guys are more interested in sex while girls are more interested in intimacy, and it’s a long, befuddled road to get to the same plane.Many can argue that the 2015 is all about the hookup, thanks to the proliferation and ubiquity of apps like Tinder and Grindr.(Consequently, this current generation gets judged as having a callous disregard for emotion and a penchant for capital-c Casual dating relations.) A lot of present-day media frames casual sexual relations as either “slutty” or something people need to get out of their system before settling down.(My favorite bit of trivia is that, according to the executive producers’ commentary on “TOW the Prom Tape,” after Phoebe put on a male swagger and declared, “I’m ready for my penis now,” while playing wingman for Chandler at Central Perk in that episode, the show’s writers could not say “penis” on air for about a five-year period.) Despite the show’s penchant for innuendo and metaphor, and its spliced, out-of-order nature during syndication, No matter what the circumstance, responsibility to friendships and family come before romantic and sexual relationships.
Creeping on Joey’s current girlfriend and making a move on her was one of Chandler’s absolute low points.
For good reason: that show held the reins of the cultural juggernaut for about a decade, influencing, reacting to, and commenting on popular culture trends once a night every week.