Teen girl dating older man
Christopher Ryan of Psychology Today argues – in direct response to Schwyzer – that there’s an “innate biological desire men hold for women in their most fertile years,” and that such a desire is perfectly natural.We’ve all heard this idea before: men are designed to want to spread their seed, so in spite of their age and inability with age to care for children, they remain attracted to women who can propagate their DNA.So why do we treat early male sexual encounters as so much less shocking than female?Because despite all the ways in which sex has changed in the last hundred years, we persist in thinking of boys as randy little buggers who want sex, and girls as delicate little flowers who are victims.But even in those more liberal countries that set the age of consent in the early or mid teens, there’s a strong precedent for further litigation of the relative ages of the people involved.The Netherlands, often held up as an example because of its low pregnancy and STD rates, allows for sexual activity between the ages of 12 and 16, but in order to have legal sex with someone over 16 you must also be over sixteen.
The story left me wondering if perhaps the way we try to protect young women in 2015 might actually be preventing them from having experiences, making mistakes and really living their lives. Male sexuality apparently doesn’t need to be protected.
The desire to protect young women from abusive or predatory sexual relationships is a noble sentiment, and one that no reasonable person could disparage.